Your parents may have had a hard life.
But it’s not about you.
I repeat: It’s not about you.

You didn’t create that burden.
So you don’t have to carry it.
Cleaning up their mess, fixing their problems, healing their wounds…
None of that is your job.

I know I don’t love my own family.
And I’m fighting to break free from them.
That doesn’t make you weak.
On the contrary, it’s part of being strong.

You were just a child.
And now you’re a young woman.
All those storms in their lives started before you were even born.
So don’t feel guilty or ashamed about it.
Because it’s not your fault.

Sure, maybe they really struggled.
Life wasn’t easy for them.
But that was the result of their own choices.
Not yours.
That feeling of “debt” they put on your shoulders…
The guilt you feel when they say “We did everything for you”…
Don’t let that consume you.

Ask yourself:
Would their lives have been better without you?
Most likely not.
Because their problems didn’t start with you.
And therefore, they are not yours to solve.

It’s okay to love them.
It’s okay to still care.
But loving them doesn’t mean you have to carry the weight of their lives.
There are millions of other ways to show gratitude.
But sacrificing your own life for their responsibilities is not one of them.

My dear,
You deserve all the good things in this life.
You deserve to be loved.
To be understood.
To find peace.
And you owe no one anything.