There are things I want to talk about regarding friendship… I’ll explain through a specific friendship that I personally experienced and that has made me uncomfortable.

A friend I’ve known since childhood—someone whose many mistakes I’ve tolerated for as long as I can remember. From time to time, we argue and speak openly to each other. Sometimes we benefit from one another; other times, we confide in each other. I don’t even know what kind of friendship we have. I guess it’s a toxic one, but it continues—clearly because fate wants to teach me some life lessons.

Even though it bothers me and I try to end the friendship at times, something always happens, and we end up reconnecting. Over time, this person has become better in some ways, but to me, it still feels like a toxic relationship. I usually try to ignore their faults, but especially when it comes to friendship, people should be honest with one another.

It’s a terrible feeling to be overwhelmed by problems with other people while I’m still struggling with my own psychological issues. I already have my own troubles, and I’m having a hard time solving them—do I really have to deal with you too?

Of course, you don’t cut someone off just because of one incident. I’m not that kind of person. I’ve tried to let go, mainly because I’m tired of the unfairness when it comes to money, the constant swearing, and the selfishness. When I come into money, I try to be generous—but if I don’t see the same generosity in return, that’s a big problem. If I avoid using vulgar language, but the other person constantly swears, that’s a big problem. If shared responsibilities are not actually shared, that’s a big problem—and if these problems continue, they will lead to even bigger issues.

The most important lesson I’ve learned here is probably that sometimes, you have to be stingy. Being overly generous just makes you look like a fool. The good things you do lose their meaning, and people end up using you just for their own benefit.

In the kind of friendship I’m looking for, two friends should support each other when needed and never forget their debts. They should be honest with one another.