I have completely severed ties with a friend whom I have known for a long time but with whom I occasionally argue. I no longer speak to him or care about him. Of course, this did not happen overnight;
it was the result of a long period of accumulated tension…

I had previously written and published an article about toxic friendships, where I mentioned that I wanted to end this friendship but didn’t specify why. I experienced an incident that justified ending this friendship.

I am both happy and at peace. I still have many problems in my life, but I have resolved one of them, so at least I can be happy about that.

Let’s talk about the problems I’ve faced: 

Constantly doing good deeds without seeing any return is a major issue. Yes, think about the good deeds you’ve done—if you don’t, you’re a fool. I can say this confidently because I’ve experienced it firsthand. I hope you never have to go through the same thing. If you keep doing good deeds for someone and they don’t do anything in return, stop doing good deeds for them. You need to think about this. What have you done for each other? Friendship isn’t about putting yourself in a fool’s place; it’s about doing good deeds and making sacrifices for each other.

I think about the good deeds I’ve done and get angry at myself. No one in my life has ever valued me as much as I’ve valued others. It’s very important to set boundaries, no matter who you are.

Don’t share your secrets. You can’t even imagine how what you share will come back to you. You should get to know someone for at least a few months before sharing your secrets with them. I know this from experience.

From now on, I must be very careful with everything and especially with everyone, and I must not reveal that I am transgender.

◇ The next day, I want to add a few things to this post. After I finished writing this blog post yesterday, they messaged me again, and I think they still want to say mean things to me. I ignored them and didn’t respond even though I saw the message, and they didn’t send any more messages after that. This needs to end quietly because I don’t want the situation to escalate or get worse. 

If I had started hearing harsh words from the other side, I would have responded in kind, and this would have ended badly… 

Fortunately, it didn’t come to that, and it ended disrespectfully. I will never forgive them, and one day, God will make them pay for what they’ve done.