The title of this post may sound harsh, but it’s not an exaggeration. It’s the result of what I’ve lived through.
In my 23 years of life, I’ve always felt a certain distance from many people—my family, relatives, and so-called friends. I never fully understood why, but I still treated everyone kindly. Looking back now, I see that this was a mistake. And I paid for it.

I’ve witnessed countless times how people praise themselves, justify their wrongs, and try to silence me instead of listening. I was just a kid. I believed the lies told to my face with a smile. I grew up in an environment where trusting others felt like a sin. And over time, I realized:

> “Those who know don’t talk much.
But those who know nothing can’t hear the truth because they never stop talking.” Açelya Güneş



That’s a quote of mine.
And it reflects something very real.
The more people see the truth, the quieter they become.
Because fighting feels pointless. Because no one wants to hear the truth.
Silence becomes a form of protection.

Some people truly live as if they’ve been abandoned by God. They perform religious rituals, but there’s no humanity left in them. Like devils who pray. Like demons who say kind words but mean none of them.
These aren’t poetic metaphors — they’re things I’ve seen with my own eyes.

Throughout my life, I’ve watched people betray one another, hurt each other deeply, and still sit at the same table laughing like nothing happened.
And I stopped trying to make sense of it.
I don’t argue anymore.
I just walk away and try to build a life of my own.

Now let me share a specific example — something that taught me a lot:

Let’s say someone in your family helps you. They bring you something you need. But they didn’t buy it. They took it from their workplace. It actually belongs to someone else.
And when that person realizes it’s missing, they feel sad. They experience loss.

So ask yourself: Is that really kindness?

Is kindness only about the outcome, or does the intention and method also matter?
If someone gives you something that doesn’t belong to them, is that really helping you? Or is it just putting a burden on someone else’s back?

> True kindness doesn’t come at the cost of others.
Just because something benefits you doesn’t make it right. If it harms someone else, it’s not kindness — it’s manipulation.



Many of the so-called “good deeds” done for me were exactly like this.
There was no real effort. No sincerity.
They weren’t helping me — they were just trying to look like a good person using someone else’s resources.

So here’s my advice:

> Pay attention to the “kindness” you receive.
Ask yourself: Was this really for me?
Or was I just being used so someone else could feel better about themselves?



Remember: Some people don’t do good.
They just pretend to — so they don’t have to feel guilty.